I posted awhile back about yelling. I’m far from perfect, and sometimes when I’m really stressed I yell. At the kids, at my husband, it happens, and I don’t want it to. I feel guilty every time it happens, and I just want to cry. I came across a blog about a month ago called the Orange Rhino Challenge. Over a year ago, the blogger started this challenge for herself to love more and yell less. She made it 520 days without yelling, and I know that I can do it too. I just need to focus on managing my stress better and taking care of me! Let’s face it, most of the time when I yell it isn’t because of the kids. It’s because I’m already at “that point” and the kids do something that sets me off.
I don’t think that yelling is productive or that it teaches my kids a “lesson”. Getting down on their level and speaking to them like the little people they are is much more effective, and a whole lot nicer!
I was a little skeptical at first, because I have a runner. He takes off in the parking lot, grocery store, driveway, restaurant, pretty much anywhere that I may have my guard down momentarily. Sometimes I need to yell to him in order to keep him safe! But there are rules, which is helpful. The site is a really great resource for mom’s out there! The Orange Rhino Facebook Page is also a great place for support from other mom’s along on this journey.
So, today, July 23, 2013 , I embark on the Orange Rhino Challenge. I will love more and yell less! I will not yell for the next 365 days and I will follow these rules…
- My voice has to remain in Levels 0-4 (the nice tone voices!)
- In case of Emergency (kid running off in parking lot, kid running into street, hot stove etc…) I can use a voice in level 6 but it has to be yelling “to” the kid not “at” the kid. When you yell at someone, it’s mean. When you yell “to” someone it’s to get their attention. Said voice MUST be followed by firm voice in level 3 or below otherwise it’s no good.
- This one is the kicker. If Level 7 is ever used, I am set back not to 0, but by two days. This level is unacceptable as it is extra demeaning and hurtful….
*You can find the yelling meter here
Anyone up for joining me??
Until our next adventure,