Misconceptions of Stay-at-Home Moms

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I’ve been fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with the kids since the twins were born. I can’t believe I have been out of the real world for three years! It has been really fulfilling and really, really difficult. Especially since we moved here where I have no support system. The majority of my day is spent talking about poop, pee, or cartoons, but I wouldn’t change a thing. Our kids are little for such a short time, and I’m blessed to be able to spend so much time with them and to teach them while they are young!

I watched a video on Upworthy the other day that was really cute. It was a little girl talking about her mom, and she called her a doctor, a chef, an angel, and some other things. I took the video as being about all moms, not just those of us who don’t work outside the home currently. Then I read the comments, which is always a mistake. One comment really got under my skin. It went something like…

All of you stay-at-home moms should go out and get a job and do something with your lives. You’ll be sorry when your husband divorces you for a younger woman and you don’t have rights to his pension or salary. Then you’ll have to get a minimum wage job and the taxpayers will be paying for your kids.

Seriously?? I’ve heard some of the stereotypes, but I’ve never really been witness to one. That blanket statement pretty much says
A) All men are jerks
B) SAHMs are lazy
C) Raising productive citizens isn’t “doing something with your life”
D) SAHMs are uneducated and unqualified to be anything but a Walmart greeter (and there’s nothing wrong with being a Walmart greeter!)

Most SAHMs that I know don’t plan on doing it forever, I know that I don’t. And even if I did, that wouldn’t make my value as a person any less than someone who works full-time. Raising kids is hard, whether you work or not, and being a parent is important. Everyone’s situations are different, but we all try our best to be good parents and that’s what matters. We are all in this together, shouldn’t we be supportive of each other along the way?

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy

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Holiday Shopping Madness

The holiday shopping madness has already begun. Today I went to Target to pick up a few things for our trip this week, and I could already tell that the season had started. People were crabby, inconsiderate, and all over the place. What is it about shopping during this time of year that brings out the worst in people? I went to the store knowing that I would have to park far away, wait in line, and make my way through the crowd just to get a few toiletries. Doesn’t everyone realize that? I was ok with it, the world wasn’t going to stop because it took me 15 extra minutes in Target. I just don’t think it’s necessary to ram your cart into the lady pushing two kids because she’s not moving fast enough for you. Excuse me would be fine, really. Then as we were walking to the car, some crazy person almost ran over Will. Literally. He fell and instead of waiting for the three seconds it would take me to get him up, she decided to speed right by. The only problem was that she didn’t cut her wheel enough and I had to dive on top of him to prevent her from running over his hand. He was fine, but he was scared. A couple of people ran over to make sure he was ok, which was nice, but I think it scared him even more.

If you will be joining the masses this weekend, try to be patient and kind! I know we all want to save a little money on our holiday gifts, but remember that it’s not the gifts that this season is about. It’s about love and kindness and being grateful for what you have.So smile at the cashier working 12 hour days to provide a great Christmas for her kids, let the mom with all the kids cross the street without mowing her down, tip your server well, and be nice to other shoppers:)

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy

I Have a Confession to Make…

I already put our Christmas decorations up. Yes, on November 18 I was in a Christmas frenzy. I dug all of the decorations out of the garage, and to my children’s dismay, sang Christmas carols while decorating the house. If you had asked me 5 years ago if I would ever decorate before Thanksgiving, I would have rolled my eyes at you.

Last year I was never able to get warm and fuzzy about Christmas. Right around Thanksgiving we found out we were moving to New Jersey, so I spent almost the entirety of the holidays packing our house. My husband was working in New York the whole month of December, so the kids and I were on our own. When the kids opened their gifts on Christmas morning, I immediately put more than half of them in a moving box and they weren’t opened until we got settled in our new home.

So this year, I’m a little over-excited! I’m almost completely done with my shopping and I really want to start doing Christmas activities with the kids. I’ll wait until after Thanksgiving for that. The kids are happy, they love all of the lights but my husband thinks I’m a lunatic:) I’m hoping I won’t be disappointed when I have nothing left to do come mid-December!

When do you decorate for the holidays? Do you think it’s too early?

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy

Blackberry Chia Seed Smoothie

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The Blueberry Kale Smoothie I posted awhile back is one of my most popular posts and was even featured at Adventures in Mindful Living, so I thought that I would share one of my other favorite smoothies!

Blackberries are rich in bioflavonoids and vitamin C and have high antioxidant levels. They also have a high tannin content which can help to reduce intestinal inflammation. They provide a sweet, rich flavor which is the part I like best! Chia seeds are a wonderful source of both Omega-3 and Omega-6 fatty acids (they contain more Omega-3 than salmon!). They are also packed full of fiber and minerals. I find them in ground form on the natural food aisle at my grocery store.

Blackberry Chia Smoothie

1 cup organic frozen blackberries

1 cup organic greens (I usually use spinach or kale)

1/4 cup organic vanilla yogurt (you could replace this with a little more water for dairy-free)

1 tbsp ground chia seeds

1/4-1/2 cup of water (start with 1/4 and add as needed)

Add the yogurt first, followed by the greens, chia seeds and blackberries. Pour the water over the top and blend! Enjoy!

-Moving Mommy

Sunshine Award!

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I am truly honored that Echo from Domain of the Mad Mommy nominated me for the Sunshine Award! Stop by and check her awesome blog out!

Sunshine Award Rules

1. Thank and recognize your nominating blogger

2. Give 11 random facts about yourself

3. Answer the 11 questions given by your nominating blogger

4. Nominate 11 bloggers (cannot be your nominating blogger)

5. Post 11 questions for your nominees

11 Facts about Me

1. I have lived in 5 states in the past 6 years

2. I secretly wish we could have backyard chickens

3. I love to read more than any other of my hobbies

4. I make tutus

5. I play more video games than my kids

6. I plan to run a half marathon next year

7. I am an only child

8. My husband and kids are the best things that have ever happened to me

9. My favorite season is spring

10. I’m from northeastern Ohio

11. I LOVE all things Ohio State!!!

Questions from Domain of the Mad Mommy

1. If you had to listen to one song, on repeat, for a whole day, what would it be?

#34 by Dave Matthews Band

2. You have to change your first name, today! What do you change it too?
Rosita, after my grandmother. I think it’s a beautiful name!
3. Why did you start blogging?
I started blogging to share our moving journeys and my crazy life with the kiddos.
4. Are you where you pictured yourself 5 years ago?
Not at all. 5 years ago I lived in South Florida with one child. I have lived in 3 states since then and had twins!
5. Spaghetti’os, Kraft Mac N Cheese or Tombstone Pizza. Pick one.
Kraft Mac N Cheese
6. If you could have any pet in the world, what would it be?
A horse
7. If you could only watch one movie for the rest of your life, what movie would you pick?
X-Men
8. Do you shower everyday? (Be honest)
Nope, every other day
9. What is your most dreaded chore?
Folding the laundry
10. Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
I have 5 tattoos
11. What TV commercial gets stuck in your head the most?
State Farm (Discount Doooouuuuuble Check!)
My Nominees
My 11 Questions to the Nominees
1. How long have you been blogging?
2. What is your favorite hobby?
3. What is your favorite thing to write about?
4. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
5. What is your ideal vacation spot?
6. What is your greatest accomplishment?
7. What’s worse, laundry or dishes?
8. Do you have a TV show that you watch but don’t like to admit? Which one?
9. Sweet or salty?
10. What state or country if you aren’t in the US do you live in?
11. Snow, do you love it or hate it?
Thanks again to Echo at Domain of the Mad Mommy!!
Moving Mommy

One Step at a Time

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Before we started our journey toward a real food lifestyle, we were not healthy eaters. We ate out a lot, I rarely cooked, and most things I did cook came out of a box. The one thing that I did try to avoid was artificial food dyes. Not because I necessarily thought that they were terrible for us, but because they made Luke act crazy. If I gave him Kool-Aid or a sucker he would change from a state of calm into a crazy fit of toddler tantrum. I’m probably overexaggerating, but the difference in his behavior was noticeable. I had no idea that Kraft Macaroni and Cheese contained food dyes either. I was under the impression that it was only in candy and drinks, not in actual food. I also didn’t know that they were derived from petroleum. Gross.

It is widely believed that artificial dyes cause hyperactivity in children, so apparently Luke isn’t the only one. Some doctors support this theory while others do not, but after Halloween candy this year I have seen Will act in much the same way Luke did. These artificial dyes are not allowed in food in many other countries and must have warning labels in even more. Companies use them because it is cheaper to use a yellow chemical dye than to use paprika to dye something yellow. Higher profit margin for them, health consequences for the public.

In March, Vani Hari the Food Babe and Lisa Leake from 100 Days of Real Food created this petition on Change.org requesting that Kraft remove artificial dyes from its macaroni and cheese, as it has done for the UK. They responded by stating that some of their varieties do not contain dye. The problem is that all of the ones marketed toward children DO contain artificial dyes. The products that use natural dyes are either not readily available or the homestyle versions. Certainly nothing in the blue box. Vani Hari took 270,000 signatures to Kraft headquarters, which you can read about here, and it was a big step. But nothing happened… until now!

Kraft released that they will be removing the artificial dyes from three versions of their macaroni and cheese marketed toward children, Sponge-bob, Halloween, and winter shapes. They will also be adding two more dye-free products. Is it enough? No. Is it a start? Absolutely!

It goes to show that little by little, concerned citizens are changing our food system to make it healthier for ourselves and our children. That is not only encouraging, it is something to be proud of.

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy

Failure… Good or Bad?

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Personally, I think that failures are a difficult but very important part of our lives. Failing makes us work harder, and as children it makes us realize that in order to succeed we must put forth effort, that everything doesn’t necessarily come easy. BUT, it’s so hard to think of letting your child fail at something. I want to protect them from being hurt and disappointed, even when I know it’s not what is best for them.

When is the right time to stop protecting and let them fail? That’s what I struggle with. On a small scale, I let them do it all the time. Letting the twins climb the big kid playground or try the monkey bars is good for them, even though I know that they will probably fall a few times before they get it. Maybe even more than a few times. But none of those things are going to break my child’s heart.

There are soccer try-outs for a more competitive league on Sunday, and the thought of it gives me a horribly sick feeling in my stomach. I know that I should explain to Luke that it is a try-out and that he may not make the team, and let him decide whether he wants to do it or not. He enjoys soccer, but I think that it has more to do with the team aspect of it than the actual sport. I don’t think my husband wants us to do it, but his concerns have more to do with over committing Luke to too many sports in the spring.

I know that I’m being silly and some of you will think “suck it up, he’s in first grade”, I tend to agree. But it’s so hard! What are your thoughts on letting your kids fail? Would you let your young child try out for a team that he/she probably wouldn’t make?

I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy