Misconceptions of Stay-at-Home Moms

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I’ve been fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with the kids since the twins were born. I can’t believe I have been out of the real world for three years! It has been really fulfilling and really, really difficult. Especially since we moved here where I have no support system. The majority of my day is spent talking about poop, pee, or cartoons, but I wouldn’t change a thing. Our kids are little for such a short time, and I’m blessed to be able to spend so much time with them and to teach them while they are young!

I watched a video on Upworthy the other day that was really cute. It was a little girl talking about her mom, and she called her a doctor, a chef, an angel, and some other things. I took the video as being about all moms, not just those of us who don’t work outside the home currently. Then I read the comments, which is always a mistake. One comment really got under my skin. It went something like…

All of you stay-at-home moms should go out and get a job and do something with your lives. You’ll be sorry when your husband divorces you for a younger woman and you don’t have rights to his pension or salary. Then you’ll have to get a minimum wage job and the taxpayers will be paying for your kids.

Seriously?? I’ve heard some of the stereotypes, but I’ve never really been witness to one. That blanket statement pretty much says
A) All men are jerks
B) SAHMs are lazy
C) Raising productive citizens isn’t “doing something with your life”
D) SAHMs are uneducated and unqualified to be anything but a Walmart greeter (and there’s nothing wrong with being a Walmart greeter!)

Most SAHMs that I know don’t plan on doing it forever, I know that I don’t. And even if I did, that wouldn’t make my value as a person any less than someone who works full-time. Raising kids is hard, whether you work or not, and being a parent is important. Everyone’s situations are different, but we all try our best to be good parents and that’s what matters. We are all in this together, shouldn’t we be supportive of each other along the way?

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy

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Holiday Shopping Madness

The holiday shopping madness has already begun. Today I went to Target to pick up a few things for our trip this week, and I could already tell that the season had started. People were crabby, inconsiderate, and all over the place. What is it about shopping during this time of year that brings out the worst in people? I went to the store knowing that I would have to park far away, wait in line, and make my way through the crowd just to get a few toiletries. Doesn’t everyone realize that? I was ok with it, the world wasn’t going to stop because it took me 15 extra minutes in Target. I just don’t think it’s necessary to ram your cart into the lady pushing two kids because she’s not moving fast enough for you. Excuse me would be fine, really. Then as we were walking to the car, some crazy person almost ran over Will. Literally. He fell and instead of waiting for the three seconds it would take me to get him up, she decided to speed right by. The only problem was that she didn’t cut her wheel enough and I had to dive on top of him to prevent her from running over his hand. He was fine, but he was scared. A couple of people ran over to make sure he was ok, which was nice, but I think it scared him even more.

If you will be joining the masses this weekend, try to be patient and kind! I know we all want to save a little money on our holiday gifts, but remember that it’s not the gifts that this season is about. It’s about love and kindness and being grateful for what you have.So smile at the cashier working 12 hour days to provide a great Christmas for her kids, let the mom with all the kids cross the street without mowing her down, tip your server well, and be nice to other shoppers:)

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy

I Have a Confession to Make…

I already put our Christmas decorations up. Yes, on November 18 I was in a Christmas frenzy. I dug all of the decorations out of the garage, and to my children’s dismay, sang Christmas carols while decorating the house. If you had asked me 5 years ago if I would ever decorate before Thanksgiving, I would have rolled my eyes at you.

Last year I was never able to get warm and fuzzy about Christmas. Right around Thanksgiving we found out we were moving to New Jersey, so I spent almost the entirety of the holidays packing our house. My husband was working in New York the whole month of December, so the kids and I were on our own. When the kids opened their gifts on Christmas morning, I immediately put more than half of them in a moving box and they weren’t opened until we got settled in our new home.

So this year, I’m a little over-excited! I’m almost completely done with my shopping and I really want to start doing Christmas activities with the kids. I’ll wait until after Thanksgiving for that. The kids are happy, they love all of the lights but my husband thinks I’m a lunatic:) I’m hoping I won’t be disappointed when I have nothing left to do come mid-December!

When do you decorate for the holidays? Do you think it’s too early?

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy

Failure… Good or Bad?

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Personally, I think that failures are a difficult but very important part of our lives. Failing makes us work harder, and as children it makes us realize that in order to succeed we must put forth effort, that everything doesn’t necessarily come easy. BUT, it’s so hard to think of letting your child fail at something. I want to protect them from being hurt and disappointed, even when I know it’s not what is best for them.

When is the right time to stop protecting and let them fail? That’s what I struggle with. On a small scale, I let them do it all the time. Letting the twins climb the big kid playground or try the monkey bars is good for them, even though I know that they will probably fall a few times before they get it. Maybe even more than a few times. But none of those things are going to break my child’s heart.

There are soccer try-outs for a more competitive league on Sunday, and the thought of it gives me a horribly sick feeling in my stomach. I know that I should explain to Luke that it is a try-out and that he may not make the team, and let him decide whether he wants to do it or not. He enjoys soccer, but I think that it has more to do with the team aspect of it than the actual sport. I don’t think my husband wants us to do it, but his concerns have more to do with over committing Luke to too many sports in the spring.

I know that I’m being silly and some of you will think “suck it up, he’s in first grade”, I tend to agree. But it’s so hard! What are your thoughts on letting your kids fail? Would you let your young child try out for a team that he/she probably wouldn’t make?

I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy

Tuesday’s Trials

I think that we all have things that we struggle with as parents. None of us are perfect, and for the most part we do a better job than we think we do. That’s a good thing, because it means that we continue to strive to be better. One of the things that I struggle with the most is managing my time and trying to do too much. For example, last week I had a meeting, practice, or event every single night. It was annoying and stressful and by the end of the week I should have been riding a broomstick instead of wearing the Super Mom cape my wonderful husband thinks I deserve.

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My life has been like this for several years, and I never change it. Each of the things I’m committed to I love to do, it’s just piling them all together at the same time that makes life crazy! Throw the CPA exam on top of it and I’m pretty sure it’s not good for any of us. My husband reminds me of this frequently:) When we first moved to New Jersey, I didn’t have anything to do and I hated it. I love staying home with the twins, but I need to get out of the house to keep my sanity! Once I had the opportunity to get myself and the kids involved in things, I was thrilled. Now I’m just trying to find a balance that isn’t too much but not too little.

What are the things you struggle most with in this crazy parenting world??

Until our next adventure,
Moving Mommy